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The difference between Honesty and Self Honesty

What is the difference between Honesty and Self Honesty?
I’m going to walk through that with examples.
The first one will be – “I have feeling towards a guy and I’m going to share myself with him and I would think that I’m honest because I’m sharing the point with the other guy, and I will expose myself to the other guy”.

Wherein, self honesty would be to first ‘Stop’, and investigate how and why I’ve created those feelings in the first place. What is it that the other guy activated within me? how is that I’ve accepted and allowed myself to create the feelings and the emotions specifically towards this other guy? What this other guy symbolize to me? And then I would go and investigate why am I allowing myself to think that I’m honest by sharing that? What I’m excepting to get. And then most likely I would see that my starting point was manipulation because I wanted something from this guy, I wanted this guy to give me energy, to fulfill me, to feel loved. And I expect that if I share myself honestly, the other guy would response to it as I would like him to response and when he does, I’ll experience good and positive energy.

So basically, my starting point is manipulating another within the belief that I’m honest about that so that I would get what I want – which is energy.

The difference here between self honesty and honesty is very clear. All depends on your starting point – being honest and share the point with the guy is probably be from the starting point of manipulation. And self honesty would be [to ask the questions] how did I accepted and allowed myself to create those feelings within my mind and what is my starting point within sharing myself.
As I’ve explained before – all those questions – one has to take self responsibility and investigate within oneself – that would be self honesty.

Another example is- I was seeing a point within myself where I was mean towards another or spiteful towards another and I hurt the person by doing something to him. Then I would investigate the point for myself and apply Self Forgiveness and I have saw what I’ve participated within and then, I would go to the other person and honestly share the point with the other person but the truth is that I’m only seeking for the other person’s forgiveness. I want him to see that I’ve changed so he won’t any longer be mad at me. And I’m seeking for his approval/validation of me. So my starting point of sharing with the other person isn’t honesty but actually deception because again, I’m looking for something from the other person – either forgiveness or that he would think that I’m good and positive person instead of walking through a point and when it’s done, it’s done. That’s it. you’re not require for anyone approval of you. Self honesty would be the understanding that no one can forgive you but Self Forgive. So – it’s another example of where honesty utilize here to manipulate another, to get energy and validation from another which basically showing me that I didn’t really forgive myself. I didn’t really walked through this point because I wasn’t actually forgiven myself if I’m still require for another person to forgive me.

So what I’ve found basically – The difference between Self Honesty and Honesty is the starting point. Where Honesty is equal to manipulation/self manipulation, deception, ego as fear and self honesty would be walking as principles of what’s best for all. What’s best for all is that I would stop manipulating other people, I would stop participate within and as energy. I would walk as who I am here, within the breath.
Not expecting or trying to get energy from other people to sustain myself.

I hear many people telling that they are honest people. But in essence they are not because honesty is not self honesty. People that says they are honest, that should be a ref flag for them because basically, they’re only sustaining their ego, they want to present themselves as good and positive people where in fact, they hide behind either self interest or ego or fear. Self honesty is taking self responsibility for what I’ve accepted and allowed myself to exist as and change myself immediately here.

Alright, thanks.